Why we should leave the term ‘Virginity’ in the past and start saying ‘Sexual Debut’

sex 28/10/2021

When it comes to chastity and our first sexual experience, a Canadian "sexual freedom philosopher" believes it's time to drop the term virginity.

Nicolle Hodges believes the term is a little out of date and doesn't adequately describe a person's sexual development.

Hodges told the BBC: "We still have this old, rickety word that encapsulates what's supposed to be an expansive time. It's such a limiting idea, and a limiting phrase."

According to the BBC, 'virginity' has implications for women of being a 'gift' or a 'treasure,' and it can be 'lost, 'stolen,' or 'taken.'

In 2021, the philosopher believes the phrase should be "obsolete," as it does not fit well into the expanding realms of "sexual expression and liberation" but also "female empowerment against patriarchal expectations and the expanding array of gender norms."

Instead of virginity, Hodges and other advocates argue that we should use the term 'sexual debut,' which 'doesn't reinforce that virginity is the end of a journey or a transition in and of itself.'

We already use the term debut to describe when someone takes on a new role or shares their first album etc., so why should having sex should be any different?

Hodges says, "It's not just replacing virginity with a new term - it's saying virginity is a concept that doesn't exist, because your sexual journey never ends."

"That's a sexual debut: it's one of the moments in your life that are profound shifts in your understanding of yourself, and your becoming a person."

Ultimately, Professor Nicole Hodges believes it will be both empowering and inclusive to people of all genders and sexualities.

Instead of thinking of themselves as pre-virginity or post-virginity, she hopes that this revised phrase would enable people to use it as a stepping stone into their own sexual experience.

So here we are in 2021 and officially referencing our first time as a sexual debut! 

Doesn’t that sound better?