Guys who like being little spoon make better partners

18/05/2018

Little spoon lovers rejoice - science has once again given us a reason to smile. Psychoanalyst Steve McKeown explained to UNILAD that men who prefer being at the front of a spooning sesh make better partners:

"Men that prefer to be the little spoon are more likely to be submissive, sensitive, pleasing and in touch with their feminine side.

A male that is in touch with his sensitive side can be more compassionate and definitely a contrast from the traditional male.

Sensitivity is a very important trait as relationships tend to be complicated and can be problematic in today stress driven society."

He went on to explain that being open with your feelings increases emotional intelligence, which is important in a relationship because as the old saying goes - "communication is key".

"It is also considered men who are sensitive spend much more time with a woman they adore and love, and it’s acceptable to expect a lot more compromise" he said.

Men traditionally being the big spoon relates back to an issue of dominance and protection McKeown said, so when they allow their partner to be big spoon they are giving up dominance. 

"The spoon position demonstrates a dynamic in which one partner takes a protective stance over the other. It a vulnerable position that says ‘I trust you’."

"This type of protection has once been a stereotype of male dominance over the women but not anymore. Times have changed as women are now somewhat freer to assert their dominance in all aspects of life."

A recent report by Status Online and the family Stability Network, titled Love, Lust and Loneliness, explored the obstacles young men navigate in their search for happiness, revealing a lot of worries and fears.

An alarming 60% of young men in the study worried about being alone, and 61% are scared they'll be a disappointment in a relationship. 55% are anxious that they'll be laughed at if they are open emotionally.

We all deserve a bit of love, so come on guys. Give the little spoon a try. Your relationship will thank you for it.